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My 92 Year Old Mother Weighs in on the NFL and off the field Violence

momdayEarlier today I had a conversation with my mother regarding the violent behavior of football players in the National Football League.  It is important that I clearly indicate that the football players I am referring to play in the NFL because my mother, Sipora Groen, a 92-year-old Holocaust survivor from Holland, takes umbrage in the fact that we call the sport football.  I’ve heard her say countless times, ” That’s not football. They call it that but it’s not football.”  For my mother, what Americans call soccer is the REAL football.  It’s no secret how she feels about American football either.  She hates it.  And for her, the recent rash of violence from its players is vindication for her opinion.

The point she wants to make, and specifically asked me to relate to my readers, is that the nature of the sport creates an inevitability of this behavior.  She believes that a sport with constant violent hits, and men jumping on top of each other to keep the other men down, sometimes in large piles, creates such a pent-up aggression that these men are left with a need to relieve this aggression in some manner or another.  She is appalled by the domestic violence as any other normal person would be, but she also feels that the sport is not a normal sport and that as it exists in its current form will ultimately lead to more violence off the field.

She went on to say that she even believes that boxing is better because it only involves two people and the actions of these 2 people in the ring are carefully monitored.  She dismissed out of hand my notion that football is carefully monitored as well because in football men just haphazardly pile on top of each other.  She  is very clear about her opinion.  Unless the actual sport of football changes, more players will be involved in off the field violence.  She feels so strongly about this that it is her opinion that Ray Rice would not have hit his fiance, now his wife, in the elevator if it were not for his involvement in football.  I disagreed with this, but she insisted she was right, and at 92 and sharp as a tack, she very well could be.

Once my mother was done giving her opinion I promised I’d write this, but also told her I had to go.  I wanted to watch the football game.

 

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Want a Better World? Treat Women better

yaziI was sitting watching Stephen A. Smith and Skip Bayless discuss the Ray Rice incident on ESPN’s First Take, and my thoughts kept wondering back to the situation in the Middle East. After all that is the subject first and foremost on my mind these days. Between the threats Israel continues to face from Hamas, Hezbollah and Iran and the immediate threat ISIS poses to the region and the rest of the world, I couldn’t help but have the thought so many people of us have these days. The world is a really messed up place.  All of a sudden the Ray Rice incident and international politics crystallized into one as I realized what is actually one of the main sources of everything that is wrong in the world today.  The treatment of women.

This was actually mentioned to me in a discussion I had with a cousin of mine about a month ago.  She stated how so much of the bad behavior of Muslim extremists has its root in the mistreatment of women.  I agreed with her when she said this, never disputed it, and put the thought somewhere in the back of my mind.  But over the past few weeks it kept gnawing at my brain, and little by little has worked its way back to the forefront.  Here’s why.

The promise of 72 virgins up in heaven is genuinely used as motivation in terrorist training.  Somehow certain elements within Islam that require women on earth to cover up any degree of beauty they have, are promising available and virginal women up in heaven as a reward for men that kill, maim and destroy.  They are exploiting perversion to encourage murder.  A man’s desire for a woman is not a perversion.  A man pursuing 72 virgins is a perversion, especially in a society where women’s natural beauty is suppressed and covered up,  and especially when they have the  perception of acquiring the virgins through mass murder and suicide. The whole idea of having a woman who is specifically a virgin is more about conquest than it is about desire.  Wanting a woman for conquest rather than desire or companionship is in itself inherently degrading to women.

I believe part of what has drawn some to join ISIS or ISIL is the ability to live a lawless life in which they have the power to do whatever they want.  The abuse of women is no small part of this.  As tragic and despicable as it is, I don’t think anyone was terribly surprised to hear of how Yazidi women captured by ISIS terrorists have been and still are being used brutally as sex slaves.  If there were no women to abuse in the “Levant” I wonder if we would see the same unrelenting pursuit by these terrorists to conquer these territories.

Basic respect for women makes a man behave a certain way.  It’s not about the basic or natural needs of  a man, it’s about seeing a woman as nothing less than an equal human being.  It’s about not tolerating abuse of a woman in any form, including a football player punching his fiance in an elevator.  I make no claims to be perfect nor do I claim to have treated every woman perfectly, but this is not about perfection.  This is about basic decency and not having tolerance for the abuse of women.

Stop and imagine for one second what the world would be like if women weren’t being treated improperly.  If you do this openly and honestly you’ll not only see a better world, but a safer one as well.

 

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Open Letter to Ray Rice

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Dear Ray,

What happened today made me angry for a few reasons.  First of all, the obvious one which is the one most decent people can relate to, is the fact that a “big strong man” didn’t have enough inner decency to stop himself from knocking out a woman.  The second reason I was angry was because this story didn’t bother me enough when it first came out.

Don’t get me wrong.  I have always been outspoken about this subject.  I have never hit a woman and I never will.  I have put myself in danger by getting involved in a confrontation between a woman and her very violent ex-husband, causing him to be arrested and prosecuted.  When it comes to physically protecting a woman the only thing I would ever fear is apathy.  So when I look back at the part of the video I did see, and I realize I didn’t get all up in arms then, I get angry.  Mainly at myself, but also at those who managed to get this somewhat pushed under the rug.

As a man, who thinks women are God’s greatest creation, let me say this to you.  A real man does not raise his hand to a woman.  Today was also the first time I saw your statement after the story broke and to be quite frank it was very revealing to me.  Your words were something along the line of  “I made the worst mistake of my life.”  That tells me a lot.  It tells me had you not gotten caught, and not become infamous for the incident, you would not have been close to as remorseful as you were.  Ray, it’s not that you made a mistake, it’s that you did something disgusting and vile.  Your statement should have been something along the lines of, “I did a terrible thing. My actions were despicable.” But no.  You “made a mistake.”   What was the mistake? Doing it in a public elevator with a camera?

Some may feel sorry for you, but I am not that forgiving.  I am not the almighty judge who determines your fate in the future, so I don’t know where you end up after all this is said and done, but for now, in my opinion, you are exactly where you should be, unemployed and humiliated.  Whether you end up with any further punishment I leave to those smarter and more qualified than me.

I leave you with this thought.  Again, you, and all those “men” who think it is OK to hit a woman need to understand that doing so makes you anything but a man.  It makes you a weak coward with no character whatsoever.  And also, take accountability.  That means realizing that what you did was not so much a mistake, but a disgraceful act of violence against the fairer sex and that you deserve whatever punishment you get.

Sincerely,

David Groen

 

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